You Don't Cry Alone, by Bob Bevan

Every Tuesday, we meet with a group of our pastoral staff and leaders.  This particular week, a few of us had things going on that brought tears of joy, frustration, pain and empathy.  I was reminded how God does not leave us to experience the joy and the pain alone.

Do you believe that God understands and identifies with your heart and emotions? Look at this verse.

“When Jesus saw her (Mary) weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled.”
John 11:33 NIV

Mary and Martha were friends with Jesus and their brother Lazarus had died. Jesus could have come sooner, but he didn't arrive until after Lazarus had already passed.

Sometimes we get the idea God is distant and unfeeling. We sometimes believe he is indifferent to our emotions, and it leads us to kill our emotions because we come to the conclusion we are alone in this and feeling the highs and lows is too much to bear.

Jesus knew that he was going to raise Lazarus from the dead in ten minutes.
He could have said, "Hey just calm down everyone, don't feel, don't grieve; I've got this. Just give it ten minutes – it'll be fine!"

Instead, He saw their emotion and identified with them where they were at. He wasn't just interested in "getting the job done." He felt with them; he hurt with them and cried with them. Tears wasted?

No. Mary and Martha would never forget the day Jesus raised their brother from the dead and how he wept with them and comforted their broken hearts.

Truth is?

One day He will come and take all who want to be with Him home for eternity, and everything will be more than all right forever. Does He tell us to not hurt, to not be angry or cry when we suffer what will prove to be temporary pain?

No – He hurts, cries, and feels with you. Maybe the next time someone hurts they don't need you to tell them to how the story ends and to pack up those feelings. Maybe the best thing to do is just cry for a moment.


“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ. If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer. And our hope for you is firm, because we know that just as you share in our sufferings, so also you share in our comfort.”
2 Corinthians 1:3-7 NIV

“Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.”
Romans 12:15 NIV